Dating someone who is a quadrapoligic
I actually had sex for the first time in rehab, because they have a special room, like an apartment, that people go into by themselves, and it's kind of like being at home again.
The nurses only come when you ask them for help for something, because it's hard to transition from a hospital bed to normal life again.
The mental challenges with Spinal Cord Injury are the most daunting to me.
A very large challenge in my life is actually FEAR: fear of getting another pressure sore if I do not take excellent care of my skin, fear of gaining weight, fear of caregivers leaving, fear of my catheter blocking at the most inopportune moment, and so much more.
Before I got hurt, I was an aerobics instructor and I got myself as fit as I could. So it was hard to be in the moment, but at the same time, it was a revelation! I was like, "I'm gonna go home and take care of myself like I used to, and I wont always have this neck brace." I'm still trying to figure out the deal with orgasms.
Basically, it's hard to explain this, but some people have complete feeling down there when they have sex. I don't feel below my chest, but when I'm having sex I can tell when he's inside me — because my blood pressure raises a little bit, and your body changes in a lot of little ways.
It was chilly, so I was hesitating, and my friend playfully came up behind me and pushed me into the pool. Thank god I protected my head with my hands, but I went in at bad angle and broke my neck. I was in the ICU for 10 days and then I went to rehab for about 2 ½ months. Chris was by my side the whole time, no matter what. People are like, "It's amazing that he stayed with you!
I had been engaged for a year, and it was four weeks from my wedding. He also had to cook, clean and do the all of the shopping.'I knew when Ken said that he wasn't saying that he didn't like me, that he no longer found me appealing or it was that he didn't want to be with me,' she said. [He] had a real sense of humor about my disability.'At home he had to remove his wife's make-up, help her with routine toileting and turn her in bed at night because she couldn't do it for herself.I had a very awesome, open nurse who worked at the hospital I was at, and neither of us had any problems talking about sex.There was also a female quad who worked there who was 40 and who got hurt in her 20s, and she was very sexual and open, and I asked her a lot of questions.